Datey Ladies with Barbara Ann & Vera Duffy

DL005B – Twinterview

Does Love in the Time of COVID-19 deliver a chance to refocus on emotional connection, or creative new ways to bang? “It’s both,” reports JAIME, a seasoned pro at online dating.

Meanwhile, MATT rekindled his sixteen year on-again/off-again, long distance romance right before quarantine struck. Find out why Dr. Amie’s episode on ATTACHED changed everything for him.

Plus Barbara talks Pride, and Vera shares some grave mistakes from episode 005.

Jaime Sena is a program manager at a tech company in San Francisco who has been married, divorced, done long-distance relationships and lots of online dating. She’s known us twins since we were little gothlings and is very glad we’re still friends.

Matt Brailey is the co-creator of Sub Buds on YouTube, now in its second season! Follow his adventures on Instagram.

DL005 – Love in the Time of Cholera

WE DID IT! WE FINISHED THE BOOK! Discover why it took us so long, and Vera’s explanation of why a damn parrot’s on the book cover. And then….

…as promised in our intro, a very specific list of ways to support the #BlackLivesMatter movement:

1. Order from a BLACK-OWNED RESTAURANT
You can find one near you on this list of lists.

2. DONATE to a cause
Here is another list of lists, but if you want us to choose for you, consider Black Lives Matter, Reclaim The Block, or the good ol’ ACLU.

3. EDUCATE yourself by watching 13TH
Ava DuVernay’s documentary reveals the historical relationship of race, economics, and mass incarceration in the United States, and Netflix has made it available FOR FREE on YouTube. (Spoiler: Police abuse against America’s Black citizenry is not by accident, but by design.)

John Oliver’s “Police” episode of LAST WEEK TONIGHT is also informative and also free on YouTube.

4. Read up on #DEFUNDPOLICE
Does it sound scary? It’s not. It’s just catchier than #REALLOCATE-FUNDS-TO-MORE-APPROPRIATE-AGENCIES-BECAUSE-SIMPLY-REFORMING-POLICE-ISN’T-WORKING. Here’s a short article to get you on your way. And after you do that…

5. TELL YOUR REPRESENTATIVES to #DEFUNDPOLICE
SUPER easy. These are PRECOMPOSED EMAILS with the appropriate recipients already added, and all it takes is a few clicks.
i. Visit Defund.email
ii. Find your city (or fill out the form to have yours added).
iii. “Allow” the website to compose an email.
iv. Tailor the email. Make it your own. Or better yet, write your own.
v. Send.

You can also create your own tiny URL email to share by following the instructions here.

6. Tell us the SPECIFIC ACTIONS that have gotten you results.
We’re new at this. We’re listening. Message or comment to us on Instagram @DateyLadies

Thank you.

DL005A – Twinterview

LISA and her long-term boyfriend chose to isolate separately, and haven’t been together in two months. Meanwhile, KANDICE moved her brand-new boyfriend into her one-room apartment, and they haven’t been apart. Plus, Barbara shares some dating-app dramas!

Please enjoys our newest Datey Ladies feature – the TWINTERVIEW – with real-life stories of Love in the Time of COVID-19!

Lisa Jones is a mother, animation producer, rider of bikes, lover of music, cartoons, books and cats. Official motto: “When in doubt, add more glitter.”

Kandice Martellaro is a writer (STAN AGAINST EVIL) and member of sketch group Femmebot PhD. Her boyfriend/co-habitor Drew Landry is a stand-up comedian and writer.

DL004.5 – 8 1/2

Mixin’ it up with a movie! For this bonus episode, we explore Federico Fellini’s 1963 masterpiece 8 1/2. Follow Guido, our handsome hero/literal man-baby, as he navigates director’s block, Catholic guilt, rumba-dancing angels, and the revolt of his personal Head Harem.


Also… if you haven’t yet, please take a moment to sign Dr. Amie’s petition at Justice4Amie.com. We are currently at 238,792 signatures. A million would be nice.

DL004 – Everything I Need to Know I Learned from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood

In this brave new world, we’re phoning it in. Join us, neighbor, for a gentle episode where we remember our friends and look for the helpers.

Photo by Susan Anderson

As promised in the opening, more about Amie…
LA Weekly
Rolling Stone
Justice4Amie petition

Jean Kilbourne’s KILLING US SOFTLY (1979) and the others in the series are available free on Kanopy, but her TED Talk is here.

And the story of our teenage lives, featuring Amie’s friend Dave Navarro…

DL003 – Attached

Join our very first guest Doctor Amie Harwick, PhD, MFT, as we discuss her book selection ATTACHED. Are you Anxious, Secure, or Avoidant? How do you feel about airborne popsicles and butt-hole tattoos? And how many nun costumes is *too* many nun costumes? All these questions and more are answered on this, our third episode, of Datey Ladies!

Follow Dr. Amie here!
www.dramieharwick.com
IG: @dramieharwick

DL002 – It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken

The twins examine Shapermint ads, a 1970s sex-spa, and their own bad behavior while reviewing Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt’s best-selling follow-up to HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.