Datey Ladies with Barbara Ann & Vera Duffy

DL054 – Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey – part 4 “Misery Into Death”

Loneliness is bad – just ask your body. But all is not lost: there are Ministries of Loneliness, Men’s Sheds, EMDRs, and of course kayaking!

And guess what, after this episode we are HALF WAY through the book!

Plus, the meditative RAT : www.remote-associates-test.com

DL052 – Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey – part 3 “Don’t Be Heartbroken”

A twinsight about Vera’s cat allergies preludes the next three chapters of HEARTBREAK, covering pair-bonding prairie voles, more head-harem bullshit, and complicated grief. Speaking of, Bibi tells a sad story.

DL049 – Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey – part 2 “Guita-red Flag”

Bibi tells a diverting story, Vera accepts a helping knee, and Florence Williams loses her Ennis match in the next installment of HEARTBREAK.

DL046 – Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey – part 1

We did it! We reviewed an actual DATING-TYPE BOOK!!! Please enjoy our take on chapters 1-3 of Florence Williams’s kayaklicious-tome.

And also: Krampii!

Two horrific beasts (bottom) with a couple Krampuseses. (photo by Taylor Wong / Brookledge)

Read more about the “rickety bridge experiment” (aka “misattribution of arousal”) here.

DL036 – The Snow Ball

This podcast about books and dating makes it’s long-awaited return to books and dating! Vera shares her insight into Brigid Brophy’s 1964 masterpiece of fiction about Mozart, sex, and death. It’s got everything: a lavish 18th century-themed New Years Eve gala, a mysterious masked man make-out, a kick in the balls.

Plus, Barbara continues her thoughts on incels, and Vera talks faux empty nesting.

DL024 – The Ethical Slut featuring Prix de Beaute – part 1

Real-life alternative-relationship-haver PRIX DE BEAUTE helps us finally grasp THE ETHICAL SLUT, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy! Hear part 1 of her fascinating history of sex, romance, heartache, and jealousy as she searched for the perfect balance of partners in life and love.

See more of Prix on Instagram!

  1. Prix de Beaute performing burlesque at club Planet Queer to “celebrate” her Mormon polygamist heritage.
  2. Prix at a Werewolf Orgy as part of Dave Lebow’s MONSTER GIRLS series.
  3. Prix challenging gender binaries and monosexuality with her partner, for Ginger Liu Photography.
  4. Prix with her rainbow hair-do!

DL014 – The Consent Guidebook

The twins discuss Erin Tillman’s fantastic guide to enthusiastic consent, plus talk mom-dates, boundaries, and Barbara’s dream date/new roommate!

Erin Tillman

Follow Erin on Instagram @datingadvicegrl and @sexposla !

DL011 – Getting To I Do

The twins explore the work of one Dr. Patricia Allen, including her weekly call-in show on LA Talk Radio (tl;dl? Skip to 32:30!) Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of sexual assault.


But first, a tribute to their departed friend, artist Albert Cuellar. Please visit his Instagram @ArtSpecter1 to see his work with Tim Burton, Slayer, and much more.

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Albert, Blaine, and Vera at an art show, 2003